Grief is one of life’s most difficult experiences — and also one of the most universal. Whether you’ve lost a loved one, a friend, or even a sense of normalcy, understanding the truths about grief can help you navigate it with compassion and patience. At Schindler Funeral Home, we believe that learning about grief is part of the healing process. Here are ten important things to keep in mind.
1. There Is No “Right” Way to Grieve
Every person’s grief journey is unique. The way one individual expresses sorrow may look completely different from another’s, and that’s okay. There is no single roadmap or “correct” timeline for healing.
2. Grief Comes in Waves
Grief doesn’t move in a straight line. Some days may feel lighter, while others may feel overwhelming. Like waves, emotions can ebb and flow — and over time, those waves usually become gentler.
3. You Can’t Rush the Healing Process
Trying to “move on” before you’re ready can leave feelings unresolved. Give yourself time. Healing happens at your own pace, and patience is one of the greatest gifts you can offer yourself.
4. Grief Is Both Emotional and Physical
Loss affects the whole body. Fatigue, changes in appetite, difficulty sleeping, or even aches and pains can accompany grief. Listening to your body and taking care of yourself is an important part of recovery.
5. Memories Can Bring Both Comfort and Pain
Looking back on cherished memories can be bittersweet. Allow yourself to experience both emotions — joy in remembering, and sadness in missing. This balance is part of healthy grieving.
6. Support Systems Matter
Whether it’s family, friends, or a local grief group, connecting with others can bring comfort. You don’t have to face your pain alone — sharing your story can ease the burden of isolation.
7. Children Grieve Differently Than Adults
Young children may not have the words to express grief, but they feel loss deeply. Simple honesty, reassurance, and consistent routines can help them feel safe while processing their emotions.
8. Faith and Spirituality Can Be a Source of Strength
Many find comfort in faith, prayer, or a spiritual community. Exploring these connections can help give meaning to loss and foster a sense of peace and hope for the future.
9. Seeking Help Is a Sign of Strength
Counseling, therapy, or grief support groups can provide valuable tools for understanding your emotions. Reaching out for help is not a weakness — it’s a courageous step toward healing.
10. Love Never Ends
Although a loved one may no longer be physically present, the love shared remains forever. Grief is the reflection of that love — proof of how deeply someone mattered in your life.
At Schindler Funeral Home, we are here to walk with you through every stage of grief. If you need guidance or would like to learn more about local support resources across Western New York, please contact us anytime. Compassionate help is always available when you need it most.
